Driven people who are hungry for connection.
Known for what you do, not who you are
People rely on you. Very few people actually know you.
In a relationship and still lonely
You share a life, but not much of yourself.
Friends drifted away
Each job change or move left fewer people who really know you.
Work fills every gap
Being busy is easier than being with people.
Easier to think than to feel
You can explain your feelings better than you can feel them.
Ready for more
You just want to feel more connected.
We used to get connection built in.
Quiet mornings gave us time with ourselves. The walk to the well or the market kept us close to the earth, and the village kept us close to each other. As life modernized, those things slowly fell away, and we never replaced them.
We're more connected than ever and less connected than ever. The loneliness epidemic and social media addiction are what that gap looks like.
With yourself
Time to hear what you feel and want.
With each other
People who know all of you.
With the earth
A body and a place you actually live in.
These are one disconnection at three levels, so I start with the inner work. As people reconnect with themselves, their lives change. They become more confident, more open and more connected.
What we do together
We meet on Zoom for 55 minutes, weekly or every other week. In engineering and data science, my favorite problems are the ones where something is wrong and no one knows why. You strip everything back and look at what's actually there. I coach the same way. My approach is somatic, because the body shows what's really there. I designed this program for exactly this. I walk you through guided exercises and processes, and we explore together how you relate to yourself and to others.
I'll meet you where you are.
You set the pace.
What you say stays with me. Sessions are confidential.
You don't need to have it figured out. You do need to show up as you are.
Four simple steps.
Apply
Answer a few short questions.
Free 30-minute call
We make sure it's the right fit.
Ten sessions
One-on-one on Zoom, over about three months.
Go deeper
By the end, you'll feel the difference. If you want to keep going, we can.
Why this work
I have a kinship with a certain kind of driven person. I studied control, optimization and machine learning at UCLA, and worked at NASA Goddard and the Naval Research Lab. I loved the complex reasoning, and I still felt like I was missing a piece of myself.
Then I joined a fast-moving autonomous freight startup, surrounded by brilliant people from the best schools in the country. When deadlines got tight or a project fell through, I watched communication break down. Stress rose and the company fractured. These were some of the best people I've known. Being brilliant doesn't protect anyone from being human, and that's why I do this work.
The inner work
Inner work has been the center of my life for years: somatic work, meditation and a lot of study. I'm now training as a love and relationship coach with VITA.
I help people most who live in their heads and find their feelings hard to reach. I know how to make that feel safe.
- M.S. Electrical and Computer Engineering (control theory), UCLA
- Degrees in mathematics and electrical engineering
- Research at NASA Goddard and the Naval Research Lab
- Early engineer at an autonomous freight startup
- Love and relationship coach training, VITA (2026)
I live in Topanga, California, and I write about tech work culture on LinkedIn.
Known
Ten sessions for a small first group.
- Sessions
- 10 one-on-one sessions, 55 minutes each, on Zoom
- Length
- About 3 months
- Investment
- $2,250 if you enroll by November 30, then $2,500. Monthly payments are available for $250 more.
- Spots left
- 6
- Starts
- January 2027
We'll take a short, standard loneliness questionnaire at the start and the end, so you can see what changed.
Is this therapy?
No. Coaching focuses on where you are now and where you want to go. It isn't a replacement for therapy, and many people do both. If you're in crisis, please contact a mental health professional or call or text 988 in the US.
What if I miss a session?
Let me know at least 24 hours ahead and we'll reschedule.
How do the payments work?
Pay in full, or in five monthly payments for $250 more in total. Through November 30 that's $2,250 in full or five payments of $500. After that it's $2,500 in full or five payments of $550. I'll send a secure payment link.
Join the pilot
Answer a few short questions. Then we'll set up a free 30-minute call to see if it's a good fit.
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